How Competence Builds Confidence in Kids
As parents, we all want our kids to grow up confident — to believe in themselves, take initiative, and handle challenges without fear. But true confidence doesn’t come from constant reassurance or praise. It comes from competence. When kids are given chances to do real things for themselves, they begin to see what they’re capable of. That success, however small, fuels their confidence. Then, because they feel more confident, they’re more likely to try new things — which helps them build even more competence. It’s a powerful feedback loop that starts with us stepping back. Think about all the little tasks we do for our kids that they could actually do for themselves. Here are a few simple examples: Let them make their own haircut or dentist appointments . Encourage them to order their own food at a restaurant. If you’re staying at a hotel, have them call the front desk to ask for an extra pillow or find out when breakfast is served. Let them talk to the cashier w...