Why is this a problem?

I recently got coached and said I was feeling judgmental and negative about my kid's bad behavior.  The coach asked me, "why is this a problem?"  She continued do you want to feel good about their behavior in these situations?  No, I don't.  


I had this aha where I thought IT'S OK FOR YOU TO FEEL MAD ABOUT THEM YELLING AT YOU AND CALLING YOU NAMES.  NOW HOW DO I WANT TO RESPOND?  
Maybe you are better at this than I am?  
Answering the question how do I want to respond when my kids are fighting, yelling or being mean to me? This is a much more useful question.

I was recently coaching someone that was asking about her babies sleep schedule.  The baby was sleeping through the night, but waking around 5 am then eating and sleeping until 9 am.  I asked, "why is this a problem?"  She thought for a moment and said, "I guess it's not."

Asking yourself, "why is this a problem?" will help you gain some insight.  You may even answer that it's not a problem.  If it is a problem dig deeper and ask yourself WHY?

Asking yourself, "how do I want to respond when..." will actually help you to respond that way when things do happen?

We are all humans and humans mess up.  Give yourself some love, grace, and respect and offer that to your kids too.

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xoxo,
Megan

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