Connection with your kids -3 practical things you can do.

Connection is a feeling.  If you want to feel more connected to your kids then it comes from what you think.  

Connection doesn’t have to be complicated—it’s usually the little, consistent things that matter most. Here are three practical things parents can start doing right away:

1. Journal

  • Each night before you go to bed write down something you noticed about your child. Something funny they said or did, something nice they said or did. Anything goes. I have done this for years, and it's so fun to look back on and my kids enjoy it too. I also pay more attention to and notice the good in them.

2. Share their world. Connection doesn’t only happen in big conversations—it’s in the everyday moments.

  • Show interest in what they care about, even if it's not your thing.
  • Ask questions about their favorite: Youtube video, toy, sport or whatever.
  • Sit next to them while they play a game or play with them (even chess🤪)
  • When you show curiosity about what they care about it communicates, you matter.

3. Use “Micro-Moments” of Connection

  • Try things like:
    -A special handshake when they leave for school.
    -A warm hug when they wake up or go to bed.
    -Eye contact and a smile when they walk into the room.

  • These small signals reassure kids that they are loved and secure.


Connection never comes from the things outside of us. ALTHOUGH it’s easier to feel connected when we have similar interests. Doing things together can also help us to think more thoughts that create connection.

I hope you feel more connected this week!

❤️/ Megan

PS have you signed up for the Parenting 4C's: connection, compassion, confidence, and communication. Starting October 15. Get more details HERE


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