Never fight with your kids again.

It's possible to never fight with your kids again.

Recently I had an experience one of my sons was really mad at me about something.  He slammed the car door.  He told me, "it's all your fault."  He went on and on about it.  

It was something we had talked about prior and had made a decision about.  I tried to explain that we had talked about it...  He said several times, "just stop talking."  The old me would have been reactive and said something like don't talk to me like that.  You need to be respectful blah, blah, blah.  NOT HELPFUL.

I said nothing and stayed calm.  The 1️⃣FIRST thing we as parents need to do to never fight again is to control our emotions so we don't react.  When we react it looks like: yelling, lecturing, slamming doors, throwing things, punishing etc.  again NOT HELPFUL.

There are several ways to learn to control your emotions.  For me it wasn't until I learned coaching tools, meditating, breathing, that have helped me to put this into practice.  

I'm teaching a four part parenting series starting in January to help you learn to never fight with your kids again.

You can get more details HERE.  If you have questions reply to this or send me a direct message on 

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Take care,

Megan

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