Resistance keeps you stuck

We all struggle.  There is no getting away from that.

I have found that it's "easier" to deal with anything you are dealing with when you ACCEPT what is.

SO much of our pain comes from our resistance to what is.

We are worried about our child, and don't think they should be struggling.

We are mad that so and so passed away, they were too young.

We are annoyed that our sister in law is acting like a brat and so childish.

This are all resistance.  

Resistance keeps you stuck.

It won't go away if you acknowledge it, but a load will be lifted.  You will feel lighter.  

You can just LET IT GO.

HOW?

Start to ask more empowering questions such as:

  • Who do I want to be in this situation?
  • Now what?
  • So what?
  • What can I do that is showing love for me and the others involved?
  • What is within my control?
No one has a perfect life, but the people you see that you think do have perfect lives take care of their minds.  They either go to therapy or get coaching or both.  I used to feel embarrassed that I was into coaching then became a coach, but I am not anymore because it's made my life so much better.

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