Parenting is about the parent

The more I study parenting, emotions, brain development, human development etc.  I've concluded that parenting is about the parent.  

Parenting is about: 

  • learning to respond and not react.
  • learning to control our emotions.
  • learning to let go of control.
  • LOVING UNCONDITIONALLY.
  • learning to take care of yourself emotionally so you're not so phased when something happens or your child does something you don't like (and they will).
  • learning to have uncomfortable conversations.
  • learning to LOVE yourself when we mess up (we will, often).
  • learning to apologize again, and again, and again.
  • being kind even when you don't feel like it.
  • learning to deal with hard things and knowing you will be ok.
  • teaching through the way you live your life, not the words you say.
  • learning new skills.
  • connecting with your child with things they like.
  • being patient with your child and yourself.
  • learning the rules of the road again (teaching kids to drive).
  • not being so serious.
  • learning to laugh more.
  • AND so much more.

These are just a few that came to my mind.  There is not one right way to parent, but the better you can take care of yourself: physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally the better parent you will be.  
  • This is what I teach.


“The sign of great parenting is not the child’s behavior. The sign of truly great parenting is the parent’s behavior.” – Andy Smithson


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