How to have more fun and get your kids to do what you want

I love to read to my kids.  Sometimes I'm tired and don't want to.
I want my kids to brush their teeth.  Sometimes they are tired and don't want to.

When I am tired and ready for them to go to bed I get more demanding and impatient.  
Just like me when they are tired they get more demanding and impatient.

I don't like being demanding and impatient.  Thankfully this is not the norm and what is the norm is to BE PATIENT and make things MORE FUN.

Thankfully through coaching I have learned to be more patient and make things fun come more naturally and easily, I can help you make that your norm too.

One way to do that is by asking myself good questions.

How can I make this more fun?
The purpose of the task is to strengthen the relationship.
What kind of mom do I want to be?
How can I get what I want done the fastest?

We can get our kids to do what we want by being demanding, but it's not helping our relationships.  Try having more fun.  

Turn things into a game.
When it's time for my twins to put away their clean laundry sometimes I turn on the time lapse video and we see how fast we clean up the clothes.
They throw their clothes in the drawers like a basketball.

Talk in a silly voice- when I help them brush their teeth I pretend that I'm Dr. Desoto (a children's book) Check it out here and ask if they have an appointment and pretend I'm a dentist and talk in a funny voice.

Give them a ride- my husband gives them a piggy back downstairs to bed and says, "the train is leaving the station."

Have a race- "who can get to your bed first?"  "Who can get in the car first?"

Lead them where you want them to go with their eyes closed.

YES, this takes effort on our part as parents, but it's so worth it.  It's so worth the extra effort on our part to do it so we can have better relationships with our kids.

I can help you learn to make this come more naturally and easily through 1:1 coaching.  Send me a text 435-760-2590 and we can chat more if you are curious.

Have a great day,
Megan

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