What do say instead of good job
How do you feel when you hear or say GOOD JOB! For me it's kind of bleh. Not much emotion.
When talking to our kids and we say good job, it's fine, but it's not very powerful. What if our words could convey more feeling?
What if you could make someone's day just by saying something you notice about them.
Good job isn't specific, it's not real powerful, and it's easy to say. We don't have to think much.
When I use my brain to think harder and think about something more specific it feels better to me and to my kids.
Here are a few examples:
- I notice you put your shoes away.
- I noticed how nicely you played with your sister.
- I noticed how you tried to help your siblings when they were fighting.
- I noticed how hard you tried.
- I liked when you talked to your teacher about that problem.
- I notice how kind you are to your friends.
- I noticed you made your bed.
- I'm proud of you.
- Wow, I can tell you cleaned.
How good does it feel to be NOTICED?
Noticing strengthens relationships.
What are you going to notice today?
xoxo,
Megan
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