Don't give up

 I have been helping a few people that have said, "I'm done."  One lady is a 74 year old grandma that is helping raise three teens.  

I get it, parenting is hard.  It's SO worth it.  For the growth that we get, but also for the kids.  Don't give up on you or them.  

Parenting doesn't have to be so hard.  I think we make it WAY harder than it needs to be.  We make things a big deal that don't need to be.  We have many rules that must be followed.  We try and control it all.  I have a free resource you can get HERE that will help you decide what is important to you and what you do want to control.  It will also help you to get your kids to do things you want, without nagging, yelling, or reminding 80x.

I'm not saying any of this is wrong.

But, I'm offering a different perspective.  What if we only had a handful of things we enforced?  It would make your job as the parent easier.  

I know we love our kids, but sometimes forget to FEEL LOVE.  When we feel love, it feels good.  We then act from love, and that always leads to our best actions.  

Take a minute and breath, pray, cry or whatever then continue on and be there for yourself and your kids.  You are worth it and so are they.  Your relationship is worth it! 

Keep going, keep trying, keep reaching out for help and advice, keep praying, and keep loving.
You've got this!!!

Love,
Megan 

I have two spots open for 1:1 coaching for April.  
Coaching is to help empower you and give you tools and resources to have a better relationship with yourself and your kids.  Coaching is like a mirror into your brain to help you see what you are creating.  When we change that changes others around us.  As a parenting coach I always start with the parent.  If you are interested I invite you to sign up for a free coaching call.  Sign up here

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